Life gets busy no doubt look it’s May already can you honestly tell me what you did with almost half of your year?
This year I made the conscious decision to bring myself back to life, take more control of the things I can change for the better. I still have a long way to go, but I am a hell of a lot better and 9kg lighter than I was a few months ago. The sad, confused, lost soul crying in my bed fighting the downward spiral of depression is gone.
This new life comes with its own set of pains that I can assure you. I now wake up with sore limbs, but I will still choose this over waking up with a hangover and the stain of regret from nights I can’t remember, but out of my pit of despair, it birthed new life one I am starting to appreciate and be more proud of every day.
Ask yourself why are you feeling lonely depressed sad whatever it may be?
Often we look to blame external factors and yes they play a part, but you chose to allow those negative forces to impact your life and steal your joy, your happiness. We hold grudges that makes us angry and it consumes us.
So much so that you don’t even know what joy or happiness is to you anymore. To move forward, you need to confront your fears or the things making you feel a certain way. Do not allow them to rob you of your joy anymore!!
Easier said than done right!
Here are some hacks to help you fight for the life you were made to live.
1: Journal your thoughts, this has helped me so much, but it can be overwhelming if you do not know where to start. I suggest starting with a gratitude journal if you don’t know where to start. Write down something you grateful for every day. Mornings are preferred so you can start your day with gratitude.
Believe me, if you have a bed to sleep on a roof over your head and food on your table and you are reading this you are far more wealthy than you could even believe.
2: Forgive;. I know this is very hard to do. The minute, you can forgive those that did you wrong you setting yourself free from bitterness and anger. I cant tell you a quick fix because unfortunately every person does it differently and it’s all situation dependent. Start by making a list of people you need to forgive and work through it. Some situations will require you to personally say you forgive the person or sometimes you need to forgive yourself for holding onto these negative feelings.
3: Exercise taking care of your body is good it releases happy endorphins start small. I find ten mins of yoga or trying different challenges help. Something as simple as going for a walk can help. Get your friends involved and motivate each other and hold each other accountable.
4: Meditation I need help in this department. Try and get your mind still it’s essential to create balance in your life especially when we are bombarded by so much stimulation constantly.
5: You are what you eat healthy doesn’t need to be boring change your mindset around eating healthier you will feel better.
6: Do more things that make you happy surround yourself with positive people your environment is so crucial to sustaining your well being.
7: Get enough sleep a hard one when you have a wack schedule but try to wake up early and sleep earlier try to quiet your mind before sleeping it helps.
8: Serve others do more things for others without seeking something in return! You will not only make someone else happy, but it will make you feel good trust me.
9: Feel your feelings and ask for help. Seeking guidance does not make you weak it shows your courage.
10: Be mindful and present in moments we are so distracted these days that we need to train our minds to be present.
11: Take an internet/ social media break once a week take time off to recharge and refocus!!
12: Consistency is vital. Try implementing these things daily, and you will change for the better also be patient with yourself this is a lifestyle change not a race.
How this has helped me.
Following these steps in my own time creating something that works for me is how I managed to control my well being. The minute I skip one of these points I can feel the difference.
I am no expert, but I have done lots of research and found that this combination of healthy habits have changed my life positively in all aspects made me love myself, trust myself and given me more clarity for my life. It has also made me more confident to reach out and build deeper meaningful relationships. It has also helped my days run more smoothly instead of feeling overwhelmed and anxious.
Do what works for you try these things and let me know your results. The key to doing this well is adapting it to your current routines once it becomes second nature it doesn’t feel like work, and it becomes your well-balanced lifestyle.
If you have any tips of your own that work well, please leave it in the comments. Please let me know if you like these wellness kinds of posts. Wishing you all a lovely weekend.
Peace,Love and Happiness!